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The Best Friend

She stayed up all night with her after the last breakup.  She was probably there when she met her then college boyfriend. The woman on your date tonight has a relationship with someone that preceded yours and it will not go away.  Don’t be intimidated.  Just be warned.

The ultimate oversight, aside from not picking a first date restaurant in her neighborhood, is the male and female tendency to overlook the best friend. The family is obvious.

People pick their friends, and, with some, they have shared the best and worst times of their lives.  Your date may have been the best man at his friend’s wedding. She may have organized her friend’s bridal shower the week before meeting you.  His “boy” is now your “boy.”  Her best friend is now a part of your life.

Clients describe “his friend as a third wheel” or “her friends are annoying.”   This is part of the package.  Embrace it.  Own it.  Or lose it.  These friends are in it for the long haul, even if you are not.

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